My financial situation and thoughts are shaped by many
things in my life – up until four months ago I was all about spending as little
as possible, buying the cheapest things, forsaking quality for “good buys” and
basically saving. That’s not to say I didn’t have some bad habits – I played
the pokies and yes I played them hard. There has never been a time when I haven’t
met my financial responsibilities. My
parents were very frugal with money – actually they were over the top with
saving money. Other family members were not so frugal with money and I wanted
to be somewhere in the middle – well that was until four months ago when my
sister passed away. Now things are different.
I am doing so many new things, courses, fun runs, going out
and buying things I want.
I’ve also stopped doing things – I don’t play the pokies
anymore, I don’t waste money on things I don’t need.
My husband and I are on the same wavelength with money –
actually we have always been.
We both work and we have a good life we pay our bills, buy
things we want, give to charity and have enough money to do want we want. The thing is we don’t want a lot – or what we
want doesn’t cost a lot. I’m not into
big houses, fancy cars, overseas holidays or the “fancy” stuff in life. We live
a simple happy life where we enjoy what we do.
Since my sister passed it is more important to me than ever
to enjoy life – live in the now, who knows what the future will bring. This new
way of thinking is also tempered with the need for stability so whilst I am
spending I am also keeping an eye on what I am spending, I save up for things
and I still save with my purchases. But
I don’t sacrifice quality anymore. So some things have changed.
Lets not kid ourselves money is important but more
specifically financial security is very important. The last thing I want to do
is leave big bills to my son. My aim in life is to have enough to do enough
while leaving enough.
I am very rich in so many ways it may not be financial or
assets but it is what is important to me. I have a wonderful family, great
friends, a terrific life filled with many amazing things. I am privileged in so
many ways that it gives me great joy to give to others and for me that is
enough.
I’d like to share a very special moment with you – my work
put on a Christmas fair yesterday and today for special needs kids and kids
from work. It was amazing we’ve been
fundraising for a couple of months and working on a number of things. There were over a 100 special needs kids plus
a 100 staff kids. Yes it was huge. I won’t go into all the details but it was a Christmas
wonderland filled with displays, nativity play, card making, cup cake
decorating, picture frame decorating, computer games, games and so much more.
Not only did I do heaps of fundraising I worked on the Nativity play and ran the card
making – it was really fun. I had a great time helping the kids make the cards.
After spending 6 hours setting up and running the card making last night and
then backing up for another 5 hours today with aching legs and back the most
amazing thing happened……………
In the last hour a special needs girl made a card for her
mum, she gave the card to her mum and told her how much she loved her. It was
truly beautiful, she then thanked us for helping her again and again. She was
so very happy and then she wished us a very merry Christmas. As we returned the
Christmas greeting she held out her hand to me so I shook it. She turned my
hand over and kissed the back of my hand. I couldn’t believe the emotion I felt
at that moment. I was overwhelmed with
emotion. This small act of thanks from this very special child meant so much to
me and I can honestly say it has made a very big impact on me. I feel so very rich today. It is true when we give we receive.
Yes my life is a very full, happy and rich life and really
that is all that matters.
http://www.homelifesimplified.com.au/simplify-your-life-week-49-money-reducing-outgoing-to-meet-goals/
you had me tearing up at the little girl, you are very rich indeed.
ReplyDeleteWe seem to be in very similar places at the moment, the previous frugality and now letting go just a little but still with financial security in mind.
Sorry to hear of the loss of your Sister, I recently lost my beloved Pa and boy has it brought life into a whole new perspective
And good on you for keeping up with the SYL12 challenge, I dropped out a while back but benefitted richly from the first few months I did complete
I have gotten so much from that one gesture - just a kiss on the back of my hand it is amazing. The smallest of things can mean so much.
DeleteSYL has been a great experience and I have learnt so much.
Rita, that is such a beautiful moment, thank you so much for sharing. Congratulations on putting your heart and soul into something that will probably be lifetime memories for some of the kids participated in it. To see children happy and loving the moment really makes all the hard work worth it, doesn't it? Also, it sounds like your recent change in spending outlook is bringing lots of joy into your life! We are somewhere in the middle when it comes to spending and saving as well....it's not easy living on a single income in today's world, but it is do-able if you watch where you spend your money!
ReplyDeleteAh wouldn't it be good if we didn't needs so much money to live..... but we do so it is important to get it right for your family. Each family is diffent and each family has different priorities. Its a funny thing I've been so blessed lately and as I give out I get back.... have a great day and thanks for dropping by.
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